The internet has slammed a man for yelling at his girlfriend for making a dessert her mother wouldn’t like in a new viral social media post.
Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a man under disposable account u/Extension_Charge9781 shared his story in order to receive feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 4,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) began his story by explaining that he had been dating “Rosie” for about a year. Rosie and her mother don’t get along because their personalities are too different. His mother is “very picky” when it comes to who he dates, but he ignores her rude comments and defends those close to him.
He said his mother was hosting a dinner party for his family members. When her family gets together, everyone usually brings something. He told Rosie that it would be a good idea for her to do something homemade in an effort to get on her mother’s good side. However, he specifically said not to make desserts because his mother hates anything sweet.
He continued his story, “Rosie said she wanted to do something because that’s what she does best when it comes to cooking. I told her to google a recipe. She was quiet and about an hour later I came downstairs because I could smell something sweet and found Rosie making macaroon batter.
“I started screaming about how I told her not to do anything sweet because it was her only chance to be on my mother’s good side and I feel like she doesn’t only made dessert to be petty she got mad and told me not to raise my voice at her and she wasn’t doing it to be petty she just doesn’t care what my mom thinks about her her and that my mom isn’t the only dinner guest,” he said.
As their argument continued, he told her that she shouldn’t attend dinner anymore. She agreed, saying she wouldn’t go even if he changed his mind. He wished he didn’t answer like that, realizing that his mother would resent Rosie even more for not attending dinner.
Newsweek contacted u/Extension_Charge9781 for comment.
What is typical dinner-as-a-guest etiquette? What are some good desserts to bring?
To be a good guest, according to thekitchn.com, try to arrive about 15 minutes late as some hosts like a little extra time to prepare. Also, bring a small gift like a bottle of wine or kitchen utensil, toast the host and keep an eye on their glass and ask to refill it when it’s nearly empty, don’t look at your phone except if it is an emergency and remember to show enthusiasm, curiosity and gratitude.
According to insanelygoodrecipes.com, these desserts are perfect to bring to your next dinner party: chocolate cookie pan, griddle brownies, chocolate raspberry pie, mud pie, peanut butter pie, caramel apple pies, lemon pound cake, cream cookies and brownies, cherry cheesecake cupcakes or apple and cranberry crisp.
Newsweek published several articles on the subject of baking, including a countertop oven that turned out “to be the best”, a woman who pays her niece to bake a cake and goes behind her brother’s back, and the debate that erupted when a bride decided to bake her own wedding cake.
U/CrystalQueen3000 received Top Comment with over 17,000 upvotes, “[You’re the a**hole] You yelled at her because she was cooking man. [What the f**k]. Your mom has never liked a single person you’ve dated and you think Rosie’s choice to make a dessert instead of a savory dish will make the slightest difference? This will not be the case.
“Rosie can’t win with your mom, so she might as well do something she can do well that others will appreciate than contribute a half-a**ed thing she’s not sure about. You her owe a massive apology,” they continued.
“[You’re the a**hole]. Your girlfriend is right, there are other people at the party. She doesn’t just need to take care of your mother. Also, why is it so bad that your mother doesn’t like sweet foods? There are plenty of other dishes out there I’m sure so she can eat something your girlfriend didn’t,” u/alyanm commented.
“[You’re the a**hole]. You say you’re ready to defend your partners against your mom’s snark… and now you’re angry because your girlfriend won’t suck your mom’s snark? Your mom won’t automatically decide to be a better person because Rosie is doing something she loves. That doesn’t sound like the kind of person she is based on the information you’ve given us. Go apologize,” u/SaintSayaka urged.
U/SmadaSlaguod said: “[You’re the a**hole]. Why do you need to impress someone who hates everyone you date and has a rotten attitude? Because you’re the only person who cares. You don’t ignore shit, you let his sarcastic comments live freely in your head and you shoot them at your girlfriend.”